7 Awesome Secrets to Make Your Husband Feel Loved - How Webs


Sunday, September 9, 2018

7 Awesome Secrets to Make Your Husband Feel Loved

7 Awesome Secrets to Make Your Husband Feel Loved


1. Compliment him.
Where did we get the idea that only women like to hear that they look good, smell good, are hot, smart or sexy?

My whole life I had the idea that boys were safer about their looks and sex appeal than women. Boys do not have to worry about things like clothes they wear or that their new hairstyle looks good, right?

Well that's BS! I have never met anyone who did not care about whether the person he loved thought he was attractive. So let him know when you see him and just get it, oh my god, you're so hot and tingling.

It's easy: tell him the good things when it happens to you. Tell him he looks good when he wears that old beaten T-shirt. Let him know how much you love to smell his neck when you hug.

2. Tell him that you appreciate what he does for you and your family.

If your partner is working outside, let him know that you appreciate what he does. Even if he loves his job, I guarantee that there are days when he thinks he is throwing the towel in the ring or yelling at his boss, or just hiding in his office all day. But he does not do it. You and your family can be part of the reason.

Winning bread is an incredible responsibility for every person, and society emphasizes this even more for men. Their earning power is unfortunately often attached to their value in our society. How worthless that may be, it only gets worse if we do not recognize the pressure of men and their efforts.

If your partner works at home with the children, he also sacrifices for your family. As much as he is the parent of the parental home, and he finds great joy in it, all parents have moments when they also want to throw away the towel (or diaper), against the boss (the baby?) Screaming, or hiding in a corner. But they do not! They are there, elbow nuts in something terrible, and take care of the children all day long.

It's easy: tell him you know how hard it can be to do what he does. Tell him that you appreciate it and that you see his commitment. It is not about the money - yours or his - but about recognizing something that society usually takes for granted.

3. Make time for things to get warm in the bedroom.

No, he is probably not a sex-god, but the best sex feels transcendent, mutual, connected, steaming and dreamy; so keep sex holy and intense for both of you. By giving him the feeling that you are your own personal sex deity, and moving him back and forth, both of your lives will probably be happier.

No one ever owes his partner's gender, but cultivating the desire is a good thing in a healthy relationship. If it is difficult to get into sex or goddess mode when you are at home, try a night in a hotel room. If that is outside your budget, a tent in the forest can also be very nice. Even at home you can talk about fantasies or watch sexy photos together, such as the varied set in Dr. Timaree's ANWB library, if that works for you.

Or take some boudoir photos of yourself. Do not want to show your whole body or be too spicy? Try to take close-ups of a sexy but not so obvious part of the body. Your bra strap on your shoulder, the top of your underwear peeking out of your jeans on the hip. There are many ideas that are there for inspiration.

It is easy: feed your desire to him. Choose to fantasize about him, about a time that you were together, about that favorite part of his body that you love so much. Then hope all that longing for him when you have the next opportunity to be together, alone.

4. Be in favor of his only time.

I'll be honest, this was the hardest thing for me. I do not know why, but when Ivan and I were together for the first time, I disliked how much time he spent surfing or mountain biking. We both worked, we did not see each other very much and I felt like I had been pushed aside.

That was a lot of pressure to put on my husband, and not very honest. Eventually we learned to schedule our time alone - and I used his way to support my need to train, write or just read a book in bed.

Unless he is so absorbed in his own time that you vanish from his priorities, your separateness is a good thing! If you're worried about the time he's gone, just set a time when he'll come back and plan for later. Being apart can give you more to talk about, and when his only time is used for physical exercise or meditation, he will probably be happier and healthier because he did it.

It is easy: laugh when he says that he sets out to do things that only make him happy. Give him a kiss. He will feel seen, heard and supported.

5. Put down your phone.

I am just as guilty as the rest. There is always another e-mail, another text message from a friend, another emergency situation in the work. But you have to put that phone down and see the man in front of you.

When I get stuck in this cycle, I try to breathe deeply and look at the worst that can happen if I ignore what buzzes me. If it is a real emergency, he understands it, of course, but most things can wait.

Often when I put down my phone, I see him there and really look at his face. I see the man I love, the man I met so many years ago, and I think about how absurd it is that I do not deal with him.

Make a deal with your partner: if you have to pick up your phone for something urgent, let the other person know in a few words what it is. "The server is empty" or "The picker is calling", are defensible reasons to leave, but let him know why you are doing it and that you are coming back.

It is easy: stand by the moment you are with the person you love. Do not try to let it slip by while you are staring at a screen.

6. If you have something for yourself, take something for him.

I admit, I have lifted this right from the pen of James Sama, but it is powerful advice and so easy to do!

Take a coffee? Grab him one! Put a cup of tea? Offer to make him one too.

I have learned this lesson long ago: if I am ever in a surf shop, I bring Ivan home. I usually take something for the children, but I always take a T-shirt or a cap, or even just a new lip balm or tube of sun cream for my husband.

It is not about the money that is spent, but about the fact that I say to him: "I know you love surf shops and I thought of you when I was there."

It's easy: it only takes a second to say, "Can I buy one for you?" And the effect waves infinitely.

7. Look him in the eye.

You do not have to stare at each other as you always did with your 9th class boyfriend on the roller rink. Take a moment to connect, eye to eye and share images with each other.

If you listened to stereotypes about what boys like, you would not think that a soulful connection would be on its list of good things, but I challenge you to try it. Look him in the eye with a smile or a playful expression and keep an eye on his eye for three seconds. It is a flirt technique that works for singles, because it gives the other person the feeling that he is the only one in the room. He may be your friend or husband now, but he deserves to feel special.

It is easy: catch his eye. Smile. Repeat.

A key to a lasting relationship is to give your partner a million happy little moments with you, and he should do the same in return. After all, studies show that a happy marriage seems to amount to how much kindness there is between the partners.

It is not always easy to do some of these items, even though I've tried to make it look like it is. Sometimes they require us to be vulnerable in a way that we are not used to. I get it, I've been there, sometimes I'm still there. But I think it's worth trying.

And ask him about his list of small things that make him happy - I bet you already do a lot of it.

7 Awesome Secrets to Make Your Husband Feel Loved

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